Indian wedding is a colorful social event marked with traditional and religious rituals. Celebrations last almost 2 to 3 days in which not only the couple’s family but all relatives and friends participate with vigor and enthusiasm. Planning for such a mega event begin months in advance in which not only the bride/groom give their views but even friends and family remotely connected would have their say. There are bound to be controversies and clash of ideas which may lead to stress and tension in the family.
Here we give 6 tips on how to avoid these and have a blissful wedding planning.
1. Avoid controversies: Discuss your wedding plans with your partner. Once you two come to an agreement on the visualization of your dream wedding it would be appropriate to call a meeting of both the families to discuss each other’s views on various traditional or religious customs to be followed, events to be held, guests to be expected etc. You could put forward your views but need to be amicable and accepting towards the wishes of others. It’s best to have a wedding plan that is acceptable to all concerned before planning the other details.
2. Plan ahead for Glitches: No matter how well the preparations are made, there would be last minute emergencies to be handled. Be prepared as best you can but if faced with an unforeseen situation take it astride and let the marriage move ahead. Do not let the frustration and disappointment reflect on your face and in all your photographs.
3. Distribute responsibilities: You cannot manage everything on your own and would not be in a position to help out during the marriage so at the very onset of the planning distribute different tasks to responsible family members/friends and keep one or two people as coordinators. Hand over a flow sheet to the coordinators mentioning all contact numbers and dates for reminders for all service providers.
4. Keep guests informed: It’s always advisable to give date wise programme sheets with a wedding venue, timing, meeting point for transport and emergency contact number details to all the guests. If they are staying in rooms within a hotel/resort or rooms provided by the venue like banquet halls in Gurgaon, then these sheets can be left in the rooms for reference. This avoids unnecessary confusion and explanations to individual guests and programmes flow smoothly.
5. Guests come first: In all planning’s of venue, menu, events etc keep your guests as a priority in your decision making. Some individual guests may have diet restrictions due to health or fasting. It would be worthwhile ensuring that they are taken care of. Parents with small children may require some additional services for the children. Taking care of these minor issues will not upset your main plans or budget but will leave your guests satisfied and happy.
6. Everything cannot be controlled: In life, there are always certain things which are out of anyone’s control. No matter how well planned you are you have to accept human error or natural calamities! People may forget their responsibilities, there may be an accidental fall of waiter’s tray, electricity failure at an event, someone losing a valuable jewelry or purse, some programme overshooting the time limit, some relatives landing in an argument, someone having a medical emergency, a service provider going missing or delayed due to traffic and many more. You need to accept whatever comes and enjoy the wedding with the best alternatives available at that time.
Let your friends and relatives handle the issues the best they can while you continue with the marriage unperturbed. Marriage is a sacred bond between two people. It’s something you have looked forward to and it’s a lifetime experience. Your planning and your attitude can make it a blissful marriage that all will fondly remember for years to come. Read more about Tips for hosting your Asian wedding in London.